Questions....

Because I am getting more comfortable being more open with specific people, I am getting a lot of questions. I don't mind answering them. When I answer questions, I know a few people think it means I am trying to "convert" a person or "recruit" them. I have been approached about these concerns a few times and I do not take offense.
When someone asks me questions, I look at what I know about the person before answering. If I think the person is not interested in kink or poly, but just wants answers for different reasons, my answers will be more generalized. If I do think there is a hidden kinkster or polyamorist in the person asking the questions, I will answer them differently.
Some of my answers are the same no matter who is asking the questions. I am often asked if I have "Daddy Issues" since I am so submissive to a male. No, my "Daddy Issues" came much later, after I was already ingrained in the lifestyle and knew what I wanted and what I needed.
"Why did you choose this lifestyle?" This is another one I answer the same way no matter who asks. Why? Because this is in my DNA, I am hardwired for this. The way I process pain, the way I need to be controlled, they are all part of who I am and how I was made.
"Pain? Really? You like to be beaten to a bloody pulp?" Bloody pulp, no, but I do know people who like to be. PErsonally, I like more pain than others do, but there are others who enjoy it more. In my case, I process pain differently than other people. It excites me, it turns me on. There is a point during a flogging when the "pain" turns to a tingle, followed by the pleasurable feeling. For me, I get no pleasure out of it if it gets past the tingle feeling stage, which is why Master stops for a moment when my reactions change, so I can get back to the pain stage. He is teaching my sister the same thing when she flogs me.
"How did you and your husband become involved in everything?" This lifestyle was not something we entered into lightly. We developed our dynamic over years, the dynamic is, in fact, still changing, always evolving, always growing, always being tweeked. Our dynamic today was not the same dynamic we started with. Master recognized the slave's blood that ran in my veins. He encouraged my inner slave to come out, to flourish, to grow. He understood, perhaps before I truly did, that I would only be completely happy, completely free, completely myself, if my inner slave was released from hiding. This did not happen over night, either.
Just as our BDSM dynamic did not happen over night, neither did our Poly dynamic. We discussed it, we looked at the pros and cons, and we decided to try it out. We took a few missteps along the way, had to deal with jealousy from both of us, and prospered. As cliche as it may sound, becoming poly has, in a way, forced us to be more open and honest with communication.
These are just a sample of the questions I have been asked lately about our lifestyle. I am honest and open in my answers and welcome any and all questions.