Pronouns and detractors....

In this medium, I have very few detractors. When I started this blog many years ago, I expected to have a few people who argued everything I posted. I expected those who just find this lifestyle deplorable and evil to attack every entry. I'm surprised I have remained mostly unscathed by that side of the coin. Perhaps it is because I have made no secret about what this blog is and what it stands for, what I stand for, and what I am. 

I actually get several detractors from within our community, believe it or not! I am told by some I am not true because I do not advertise that I am poly around inappropriate company, that I do not plaster that I am poly or slave all over FaceBook or because I untagged myself from a post asking for people to sign a petition demanding FaceBook add poly as a relationship status. People have asked if I am ashamed or being forced into being poly. That answer is no, I am not. I just understand that not everyone is safe to be open around for many reasons. For that reason, I will remove any mention of me on Facebook that links to my personal profile. No one has the right to out me, my family, my relationships, or my status but those directly involved, not the community at large. 

The other big issue I have been getting called out over by members of the community is my use of pronouns! No, I don't take the time to be sure a blog entry about myself uses only gender neutral pronouns. I am a woman, plain and simple. I will use the appropriate pronouns. Master is a Man, I will use the appropriate pronouns. I will not remove any and all reference to gender or gender specific pronouns from my blog because it's the politically correct thing to do. I'm on the "right" of 99% of issues, and the right isn't politically correct. Sorry, not sorry. 

On this same thought pattern, I have gotten several messages from those who are offended that I use female pronouns when I speak about slaves and subs in general and male for Masters and Doms. People are offended that I don't say "Master or Mistress" even when speaking of my own Master (especially those females who demand they are the same and claim the title Master because they feel Mistress implies weakness due to gender!). This is my blog, I can and will use the gender references I feel most comfortable with. If it offends you, well, click the little red X in the very top right corner of the window (and cue the techie types with the "that's not the correct way to tell someone to close something, you must state every way possible to close a window or tab" see how absurd it is when applied to anything besides gender?). 

Perhaps it's the Gorean in me, perhaps it's that I'm a female slave proud of my femaleness who is owned by a proud Man, perhaps it is just how I am, but I will refer to bottoms in the female and Tops in the male. Don't like it? Feel free to substitute your own preferred pronoun or close the blog. Makes no difference to me.