Play or work?

Most people know I enjoy some things that are considered to be in the edge category. But, if you ask 50 different people, you are very likely to get 50 different answers about what exactly is "edging." 

To me, edging is any activity that poses a threat, real or imagined, to life or psyche, including, but not limited to, cutting, choking, strangling, consensual non-consent, and any other myriad of activities. 

Most people call these activities "edge play," "breath play," "blood play," or "rape play." Personally, I feel using the word "play" anywhere near reference to these activities does not convey how serious, dangerous, and potentially deadly the activities can be if not done with the care, respect, attention, and experience required. 

A couple MUST trust each other implicitly and MUST communicate every twitch, pain, cramp, gag, etc when practicing any of these things. 

When doing any kind of breath work (and, yes, I said work), you MUST keep the lights on so the top can learn every nuance, every reaction from the bottom as they explore together. 

You should NEVER do and edge work with someone you just met, nor at play parties. Master, who is an expert when it comes to edge work with me, will not do it at parties in front of an audience. It's not something you can learn from watching someone do it once, nor is it really something one can do if there is the possibility of distractions. All of your attention, from both parties, must be focused on each other and the activity. 

Just my thoughts, as someone who loves edge work. Those who treat it as play are the ones who are a danger to the lifestyle and community.