Wednesday, July 10, 2013

D/s and love

Journal Prompt: Is it possible to be in a D/s relationship without love?

It is possible, but the concept is odd to me. The trust needed for complete submission is impossible without some kind of love being there, even in its infancy. If a relationship is just starting out, and it has elements of D/s, those bonds formed are the start of love forming.
Yeah, you can scene with someone you do not love, you can even serve someone you do not love. But, without the foundation of that love being there, can the service really be true and deep?
To really be able to trust a partner with your entire self, to trust enough to submit fully, how can you not love them, in some way? Even the slavegirls on Gor love their Masters, in their own special way. That dedication can only come through love.
Yes, the start of a D/s relationship might not have love as love takes time to develop, but the fact that it is developing, that the members of the relationship are open to love, allows it to develop, along with the dedication and service.
A Dominant can't show the caring for a submissive, the concern for her well being, without having the possible capacity to love her.
To have a D/s relationship without even the possibility of love is just stringing together scenes. There is no true service and dedication.

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