Why I cover

Many different cultures are full of women who cover their hair, many in our own country. There are many different reasons these women cover, and many different extents of which women cover their heads and hair. For some, its a simple bandanna for convenience, some a net for sanitation, and others a kapp for modesty.

I have tried many different styles and types of covers over the past few years and, while there is a time and a place for each and every different type I have tried and/or own, the one I find myself going back to over and over again is the simple folded square cloth tied at the nape of my neck. It is comfortable and does not draw as much attention as a kapp would. I also did not feel comfortable when I tried wearing a kapp, it felt almost like it was sacrilege, like I was disrespecting the faithful women who wear one as part of their religious garb.

Lets look at the reasons many of these women cover. Most of them draw their inspiration from the Bible. It is written that if a woman refuses to cover her head, let her hair be shaved off, and, since it is shameful for a woman to be shaven, she must then also cover her head. Many also cover to remind themselves daily of the covering of God's love, or the covering of their father's protection followed by their husband's protection. For others, too, they cover as a show of modesty.

But, you may be asking, why do I, a Pagan, cover my head like so many Christian and Jewish women do? Why do I, a sex slave, cover when it seems to be done by conservative women who are strictly missionary only because that is what the Bible commands? Honestly? For many of the same reasons, when it boils right down to it.

Lets take a closer look at some of the reasons I cover, shall we? The first is that, not unlike those other women, I was commanded to do so. The only difference is that those women were commanded to do so by God, but I was commanded to do so by the only Person on Earth whose opinion of me matters.

I also cover to remind myself of the protective covering of a person's love, guidance, and protection. I do so to remind myself of Master's protective covering of my life, that His choices are the ones that are the best for me, that His decisions make the most sense, and that He is the one who knows what is best.

Modesty. I cover to show my modesty before others. There are not many things a woman can actually control who sees and who doesn't. Not even her girly bits can be kept completely private since a doctor sees them at least once a year. But, if she chooses not to cut it, a woman can control who does and does not get to see her hair, who gets to enjoy its full length or fullness. By covering my head, I can choose who gets that privilege. I can choose to allow only Master to see my hair at its true length and fullness. Many men are attracted to women with long hair, so I cover as a way to not show it off to others, as a way of not flaunting what I might have. Only Master gets to see all of His slave's attributes, and this is one way to be sure of that.

So, I cover for quite a number of reasons, and some of them are not what you might have thought. Covering is one of Master's desires, one of the things He likes me to do, and something I am honored and happy to do for Him. Like everything He requests, He has thought it out and has not made the decision to ask this of me lightly, He has considered everything that it could mean.

He has asked and it is not within my ability to say no to Him, so I cover whenever I am outside of our bedroom.