I am reading a lot on my own as I study for my psychology degree. I am mainly reading things on my own that have to do with my focus, human sexuality/marriage counseling. I am reading one particular book that is very good. In this book, it gives certain things that make a good Dominant. So, I decided to see if Master had these traits. Yes, this is going to be good, lol (and may get me in trouble, lol *g*)
A good Dom should be:
"-Someone with whom you communicate well." Yes, Master and I communicate very well. I have always believed that communication was very important in any relationship, and especially in a D/s relationship where one puts her life in her Dom's hands.
"-Someone who is careful. His first concern is always safety." Master is always taking the time to ensure my safety in every activity we do, not just sexual.
"-Someone who respects your limits." Yup, Master respects my limits. If He didn't He would press anal more.
"-Someone who knows His own limitations. He won't attempt to carry out that which is beyond His capabilities. He must be willing to take the time to plan, research, practice, and seek training when needed." Well, Master does know His own limitations but He does not plan things out in advance. If there is something He is interested in but does not know much about, I would like to believe He would research it a little bit, even if that research is to just ask Tiger_Eyes or me.
"-Someone who values His submissive and considers her His equal. In role, do what makes you happy. When it is time to drop the fantasy, each of you is a full and equal partner." That is one of Master's main things. He doesn't want His girls to be mindless drones, but to be our own people, equal partners in the relationship. Master has said that from day one.
"-Someone who considers the enjoyment of His partner on par with His own pleasure." Yup. Even if that pleasure is just serving Master and the joy we both get from it, Master is always concerned with our pleasures as much if not more then His own.
"-Someone who knows the difference between fantasy and reality." Yup there, too.
"-Someone willing to try everything that He intends for His partner on His own body first. While He may not enjoy a whip stroke He still must understand its feel." Not too sure about this one. I don't know if I would want Master to feel the paddle or the belt. Personally, I think that is something reserved for the submissive (switch).
"-Someone who is patient and kind. He will take time to understand His submissive." Yes, Master is definitely patient and kind.
(All quotes are taken from "Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns")
I hope some of these don't get me in trouble with Master. Then again, maybe getting in trouble may be fun, lol....
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