Sunday, February 9, 2014

Protocols

In a discussion in a Facebook group for a book series I read, a discussion of 24/7 TPE High Protocol dynamics was brought up. So, to make things a bit more clear, I wanted to write an entry of some of the protocols in my relationship. These are only some of the basic protocols that are in our dynamic, only some of the basic ones that work for us. There are many more little protocols that are in our dynamic, but these are the basic ones.
SPEECH: I do not use His given name. It feels weird rolling off my tongue when I do. It makes for some very interesting situations, since our son shares that same given name. I have two titles I use for Master, those are what I call Him, plus "Love" when in vanilla company. I use His titles because He has earned them and to show respect. I also form things as questions. Instead of saying "I am going to bed" or "I am getting a drink" I will say "Is it ok with You if I head to bed?" or "May I get You another drink while I refill my own?" this way I let Him know what I may need or want, but I leave the final decision up to Him. I also do not tell Him I would like to get off the phone, I ask or wait to be dismissed.
DRESS: I always wear something in His color, even if it is only my bra or a pair of socks. I display Master's colors with pride and as a sign of His ownership. Master is never undressed first, no matter what.
BED TIME: When given permission to go to bed, I sleep unclothed, and with a cuff around my right ankle that is attached to a long chain at the foot of the bed. When Master is out of town with work, I have a bed time and a "lights out" time as well. I send Him a good night text when I go to bed, where I ask for permission to go to bed.
MEAL TIME: Master is always served first. Once He is served, I make my own plate and present it to Him for approval, then I eat. He also has approval over menus and snacks.
SEATING/COMFORT: When Master is home, I do not sit on the couch. Slaves do not use furniture without permission. I kneel at His feet. I also ask when I want to smoke.
DRIVING: This one just kind of developed, and was never officially stated as a protocol. I HATE to drive, so when in the car with Master, He does the driving.
SEX/SHOWERING/OTHER: I do not have "solo playtime" without permission, and must ask before orgasm when with Master. The same with the shower, I can't touch myself without His permission. There is a way to ask to do things, a way to actually do things, and a way to change things.
These are not all of our protocols, they are just some of them. Because the protocols are so natural to me, I actually have to sit and think of them. There is a difference between protocols and rules. The rules are the "WHAT" and the protocols are the "HOW"

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