Now, I am by no means an expert in Poly relationships. All I can do is talk from experience. There is a different poly dynamic for each couple, each participant. But, the one constant I have found, no matter the situation, is the single most important thing to do to keep the relationship alive. That is open, honest communication.
If the members of the relationship do not talk to each other and express how they feel, then the uglies of this kind of relationship can crop up.
When you are open about everything, you are less likely to become jealous. For example, my sister and I talk about pretty much everything. I know when she has a question for Master, and I know when I have a question for her. We discuss these things to try to figure out how/what to do. Being open about feelings or experiences within the relationship helps prevent jealousy.
When you are open about everything, it is less likely that one partner will become angry with another partner, and I mean really angry, end the relationship type of angry. If the lines of communication are open and talking about everything is encouraged, then anger is less likely to develop. Issues can be worked out and discussed before they become big problems.
Feelings of inadequacy are avoided with open discussion. Each member of the relationship is reminded and reassured that they are a full member of the relationship and that their opinions are welcome and wanted.
See, open and honest communication is vital to a poly relationship, hell any relationship in general, actually. I am sure there are a ton more things that can be helped with communication. It just comes so natural to us now that we don't even think about what we are doing to help preserve the realtionship, to help cultivate it, to help it grow.
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