Someone asked me recently how we deal with jealousy and how we can have this type of relationship if there are jealousy issues. Well, as one would expect, there are at times jealousy issues, it just all depends on how they are handled.
When I feel the green headed monster creeping in, there are several effective ways to deal with it. Talking about it is one way. My sister and I have had several conversations about our feelings and how we feel about sharing Master and each of us being considered the other woman. Those words do not enter our minds any more, honestly. After coming to the understanding that being poly is something we all want, and something we all are ok with, things are easier. I do not see her as the other woman. She is simply a member of the relationship. She and I are on equal ground when it comes to Master. While He has had over nine years for His feelings for me to develop, the feelings for her are, of course, not as strong, but they are there and are developing.
Am I jealous that He can and is starting to develop feelings for another woman? Not at all. I know that there is room in His heart for more then just me, but that I will never be out of His heart, if that makes sense. He also knows that I am capable of loving more then one person as well. When you communicate these feelings, it helps to not develop jealousy. Do we all realize one pair or one person may develop feelings before the others? Yes. Do we shy away from that? Not at all. We know that these things are possible, as long as no one hides their feelings, then problems do not arise.
Does the jealousy monster rear its head when I think of them being physically intimate? Not at all. I am glad we have found someone who is compatible with us. It opens all three of us up to new experiences and allows us each to have needs met that the other may not be able to meet. Master can't meet my need to be with a woman any more then I can meet His need to be with someone who is less masochistic then I am occasionally. Master can't fill her need to be with a woman but He can fill her need to be with a Dominant Man. It works well and we are all happy.
I will admit, I did not get hte hint and kind of interrupted their first time together with several text messages, but we have worked that out now, and we have a universal signal to let one know when the other two are busy.
Honestly, it is kind of hot to think of Him with another woman, especially someone I have come to trust. In all honesty, I know I can trust her with His heart. I really did not trust my former sister with His heart, even though He did give her His heart. She wound up walking on it and crushing Him. I do not think that my current sister will do the same, she does not have it in her, and so far, she has not shown that she will.
Does Master get jealous when she and I are together? Not that I have seen yet. Does she get jealous when she knows Master and I are together? I don't know, haven't asked her yet. I am sure there will be issues every now and then as the relasionship progresses, and we will deal with them as they do come up.
So, that is the whole issue of jealousy. It is really a non-issue because of th eopen lines of communication and the honesty.
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